San Francisco is a stressy little city. On the surface people here seem relaxed, but in reality there is enough low-level discontent floating under the surface to power a nuclear submarine. It's a sloppy, often misguided passive-aggression, which reveals itself at odd times. Like when somebody does that uniquely Californian ritual of affirmation/disavowal that goes something like "yeah, I think that's a good idea" while really meaning, "I hate it but out here we're not allowed to say anything that isn't yes so I'll despise your stupid idea in my heart but in the meantime, let's just keep slovenly agreeing with each other."
Don't get me wrong, I know and love passive-aggressive behavior, I pride myself in its execution. But I prefer the kind of pointed passive-aggression of the Japanese which is so cutting, so sharp, you don't even realize you've been hit until long after the fact.
Or if we're not going to have passive-aggressive behavior, I prefer the German tactic of just interacting with everyone as though your mouth is a non-lossy conduit between your soul and the outside world: truth shall be spoken regardless of the consequences! Sincere earnestness as a defense against libel. My father's family with its German ancestry was very much in that camp.
Back to San Francisco, the way sloppy communication is the norm here stresses me out. When I was living in Europe, spending long days with my headphones on, I should have been stressed with no money, a breakup with my Japanese boyfriend, and so on. But compared with the kind of weirdness that circulates in the air here, that was nothing.
People here are in a constant state of agitation with the controlling meta-power, the United States, as much as we'd like to imagine we are free from it. Combine that with the messy communication techniques of the large populous of grandchildren of the psychedelic movement, and you've got something of a little cultural petri dish here. Totally interesting! But stressy.